Good Questions About Power Of Attorney Problems

Power of Attorney – Problems With In-Laws?

Sorry for the essay, but here’s what I need advice on…. My husband and I live with his parents (independantly using the upstairs of the house as our “apartment”) and it’s been ok until recently. His parents are elderly and his mother is currently being moved into a rehab centre following an operation that left her very physically weak. My husband has 3 elder sisters – the eldest being the one that pretty much does everything for their parents, the middle one being the one that never does anything to help out but barks her orders at the rest of us, and the youngest of the 3 is out to get whatever she and her husband can.
And she is the one the problems lie with.
Somehow, a few years ago, she managed to con her mother into signing over Power of Attorney, and she has now made it clear that she would like her parents to go into a care home. It is also more than obvious that she has her sights set on this house.

My in-laws have recently updated their wills to show that when they die, this house will go to my husband. But I am wondering how much control my sister-in-law has with POA and whether she can actually force hubby and I onto the street so she can take over this house.
I have asked as subtly as possible about trying to get my parents-in-law to change the Power of Attorney over to another sibling, but the sister-in-law in question has done something to ensure that this cannot happen, so currently, she is the one in control.

Does anyone know if she legally has the right to force her parents into a care home against the will of her 3 other siblings?
And also, if this house is legally left to my husband, can any of his sisters (particularly the one with the POA) take it over regardless?

I am not out for money or property, but my anger towards my sister-in-laws right now is at boiling point, and I feel that my husband seems to get left out of everything (even though he’s 44, he’s still “the baby”)

power of attorney problems?

If a power of attorney is abuseing there power for ex: puting their name under the clients cars,home and writing herself checks to pay for thing for herself without the clients consent and then takeing everything away from them after she put everything in her name and takes their names off all pink slips and sells the item (FOR HERSELF) and their is proof with checks she written to herself and DMV workers that admit she went in there to have their name written off all pink slips and she thinks she still gets to keep it all the house and cars! If they revoke her as their power of attorney how do they get the stuff back? Also, what is the right attorney for this in california?

Power of Attorney problems…?

I am in a predicament, my Aunt, who has power of attorney over my grandmother (who is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s) is making some rather odd decisions with my grandmothers life savings. She is “distributing” the money to all of the siblings before my grandmother has even died. My grandmother is in a nursing home which costs about 40k a year. My aunt has given herself some extra money because of the hard economy and I am concerned she is going to blow all of the money and there wont be any left to pay for her nursing home. Can the person in possession of the Power of Attorney change my grandmothers will? And can the PoA be changed without my grandmothers permission?

Joint power of attorney problems?

Right this is a little bit tricky. Basicly my mum and a family friend have joint power of attorney over my nans health welbeing and financial affairs. The trouble is that when this was set up the family friend seemed the perfect person for the job. Now i think there might be a hidden agenda. My family is split and we dont all get along and we think the family friend is now on the side of the other part of the family that do not have the best intentions.
I know that its a joint power of attorney so things cant happen without both parties being there but if all hell broke loose and it came down to it who would have the most rights my mum who is related to my nan or the family friend.
The person is sniffing into all the bank accounts my nan owns and wants copies of everything.

Cheers for any help.
UK answers only please and no i think this and i think that, i need fact.

Power Of Attorney Family Problems?

My dad has worked all his life for the government and also worked another job. He is now 85 years old and was told that he has dementia. Not the bad kind.
My mother almost killed him over medicating him that he couldn’t walk or barely talk. Mixing the Doctor for dementia medications and adding the neurologist medication without dropping what the neurologist told her to drop, little by little. She was giving him about 17 pills a day and most were Lorazapan. Almost every hour. I told her this is totally wrong. She told me to mind my business. She was going to a couple of pharmacies and they were not aware of the changes and additions to all the medications.
I saw my poor dad going down so fast and it hurt me since I live too close to them. He use to be very mean on the medications and that is all my mother keeps bringing up. That person I did not know.
So, I did some research on the computer and found out that what she was giving him from the doctor and the neurologist were over medicating him. Which caused him to be mean and had to wear a diaper then he finally had a hospital bed in her home and he couldn’t even walk. She would leave him home alone to go to the store and found him on the floor one day.
Then in Feb, 2011 she had him put in hospice. She told me he was dying and I had to face it.
I have two older sisters one up north and one south of us. Neither are involved as much as myself and my husband. My husband mows her lawn and helps her in anyway without charging a penny. He also has a full time job. My mother never really worked her life she raised the three of us and said she was a slave to my dad but gets Social Security.
His problem was that at his stay at hospice he was so bad but still alive and they had to move him to a rehab center. Now he is 95% better from Feb. 2011 to June 1, 2011. My mom has a Power of Attorney on him that I can’t even take him out for one day like Fathers Day to be with me. The nurse at Rehab has to call her for permission to go to dinner with me and my family. It is so ridiculous because if they reevaluated him he would not be accepted for medicaid anymore. He would be for Assisted Living and the office where he is at has mentioned it to her already.
She barely goes to see him and says that if he is told that he can go home she will leave the house.
She is such an angry woman. I think as she is getting older is also having mental issues.
Is there anything that I can do to get my father to sign so all the POA she has is only for bank purposes to pay the bills? She has threaten to take me off the will. I don’t really give a crap about money. I love both of them but I think her mental issues make me want to call her doctor and visit with her doctor and explain what is going on, to let her know of my mothers actions.
But, at this point I told her to watch herself because if she falls and breaks a hip she might be in the same situation that dad is in and, not have her way anymore.
I pray things change but she has her own issues and takes xanax for that and pain medications. I really have all the burden on my back. It takes over 35 miles to go see my dad and I don’t have any income now. My sisters don’t want to get her upset because then they are on her crap list. They are too far anyway.
But I do want him closer. She has a lawyer and I am thinking of calling him. Because my dad is so doing so much better and I feel so bad for him. Please email me with a helpful answer. Anyone out there Please. Thanking you in Advance. God Bless.